Happy Valentines Day everyone!
I hope everyone woke up this morning feeling loved and nurtured in one way or another.
I woke up from a horrible nightmare… but working on turning the day around by writing down some of my thoughts about this very special day that celebrates love.
I’ve learned through trial and error and emotional ups and downs to slowly start to respect this day and be grateful for everyone in my life who has shown me love. As I’ve grown older and hopefully wiser, I’ve learned that there’s nothing more important in this life than to love someone and receive their love in return. It’s one of those most beautiful things that calls us to a higher state of being and enhances our life in so many ways. I’ve learned to look past my misguided expectations and be grateful for all the love and affection that’s been shown to me today and throughout my life. I want to talk a little bit today about the many different forms of love and how they transform us.
These seven different forms of love are derived from the Greek concepts of love.
1. Eros: Intense, passionate love that is often associated with physical attraction and romantic desire. This type of love teaches us how to communicate our needs, surrendering and trusting another person while sharing intimacy.
2. Philia: Deep, affectionate love based on shared values, mutual respect and strong friendship. This can teach us to consider another person’s perspective and love someone despite differences. Friendship is one of the most beautiful forms of love because it brings people together through shared interests and experiences.
3. Storge: Natural, familial love is often experienced between parents and children. This is one of the earliest and most natural forms of love and often comes with a sense of nostalgia and shared memories.
4. Ludus: Playful, teasing love with a focus on fun and enjoyment, often seen in the early stages of a relationship. This type of love is necessary in a world that can often feel so heavy and serious.
5. Agape: Unconditional, selfless love characterized by giving and sacrifice. This is one of the greatest forms of love, often referenced in the bible, as the type of love Christ has for each one of us. It is the most selfless form of love, that requires deep sacrifice.
6. Pragma: Practical love based on compatibility, shared goals, and long-term commitment. This requires trust and forethought with another person.
7. Philautia: Love for oneself, encompassing self-esteem and self-compassion. This is important because it teaches us to take time for ourselves and fill our cup so that we can share that love with others. We cannot pour from an empty cup, so it is important to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others.
I want to add another form of love, which is Unconditional Love. This is often associated with the love we have for our pets, and the deep bond we have based on companionship, loyalty and affection, regardless of our actions or flaws. It gives us a sense of pure and unwavering devotion.
What type of love stands out for you? What is your favorite form of love and how have you experienced it? Share your story on this very special Valentines Day!
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