Transitional Change: Dying to Your Old Self.

We all go through times in our lives when we feel that a change is imminent, either we are choosing to change because our life no longer serves us, or a change is forced upon us. I went to a psychic a while back and she told me something that kind of stuck with me... she said that, I can start the changing process now or wait for it to happen on its own... either way, we can't stop something that's meant to happen. Change can be a good thing. We all get tired of routine, and living day-by-day going through the same motions; but change can be painful. Change isnt always happy and fresh, it can be downright depressing. Change is about getting to know yourself all over again. Change looks like sadness, loneliness, discomfort, and even anger. Change means dying to your old self, so that you can remember who you were underneath all the masks and armor that you've learned to hide behind. Change means sitting in your emotions, even if you don’t want to experience them. So many people, including myself, have become so used to living in numbness; masking the hurt your feeling, or distracting yourself to avoid the truth. When you go through a transition, often the first thing you will experience is a sense of grief from losing something that once was. Even if you know that what you’re doing is good for you, or you really want to change, there’s still sadness that comes from what you are leaving behind. This is just one of the reasons that change is so difficult, and a lot of people don’t make it past the first few weeks or months, before retreating back to old habits. Real change often doesn’t happen until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain that comes from change. It’s natural for us to resist change in our lives, because we seek what is familiar, what is comfortable, and what is certain; and with change often comes fear and uncertainty; two things we, as humans, avoid at all costs. That’s why it’s often referred to as ‘growing pains.’

When you’re going through a transition, it is important to feel every emotion as it comes, completely, without any hesitation or blocks. This is just one of the reasons we seek isolation when we are going through something difficult; because showing emotion in public is often frowned upon and can be embarrassing, as we share a very vulnerable side of ourselves. When we make changes in our lives it can often feel like we are taking a step back, like we don’t know ourselves anymore, and the heaviness of going through it alone can seem unbearable at times. Another thing that might happen as you go through a change in your life is how your friends and family will notice and sometimes complain that you are not the same person they once knew; that you're no longer fun or have become more somber. But if you have people in your life who understand, they will stay by your side through the good and the bad. They will understand that you are seeking peace and are coming back to a sense of balance in your life and to your true self 💗 The important thing is that you go through your life with as much joy, peace and happiness as you can find, and with a support system that loves every part of you, while remembering to let go of the things that no longer serve you. Have a great weekend everyone ✨️