It’s been awhile since I’ve posted, but this subject has been on my mind for some time. I just want to encourage anyone who feels stuck, who feels like they are reaching a point in life where they need to check some boxes. First, I want to say that people will always feel the need to make you feel like you’re not doing enough, like you’re not at the point in life where you should be at this or that age. I’ve been living in this Mentality my entire life, where I feel like I need to be at this point or that point with this person or that person, married, babies, successful job, run a marathon, etc… But, to be honest, its never really felt right. Everything I’ve done has been because I felt like I needed to do it, because someone said I should be doing it, but never because my soul craved it. People might come down on me for being a free spirit, they will say that I’m being stupid and foolish, that I need to be smart, and logical and secure, that I can’t make it on my own. That I need to get married before I get old and ugly… Yes, people at my old job used to tell me that and it made me feel like everything I’ve done up until now has been a waste. But I’ve never been happier than I am right now, yes there are days when I’m sad, lonely, indecisive, unsure, in pain, etc… but overall I feel good about what I’ve done with my life. Maybe I have some regrets, maybe I wish I could rewind and take some things back, but maybe I wouldn’t have been at this place if all those other things didn’t line up just the way they have. I want to believe that we shouldn’t regret anything in our lives. That the things that happen to us and the people we meet are a gift that have enriched our life in some way. Maybe it doesn’t always feel that way, but the hardships we face, the heartbreaks have taught us valuable lessons: they have taught us about ourselves.
One valuable lesson I have learned, especially the past few years, is that there are many different kinds of love. A lot of people think of love only in a romantic sense, but there is nothing better than the love that comes from friendship, because it doesn’t thrive on conditions and dependency and there’s nothing better than the love of family—the people that know you best. I grew up thinking that I needed to find “the one,” get married and live happily ever after. When I look back at the person I was growing up, I’m embarrassed at the way I thought and acted. That at such a young age I was depressed because I told myself I would never get married, and that would be the worst thing in the world. In the past few years, I have experienced more love than I deserve, but it has enriched my life and given me the strength to love myself in return. I have had true friendships that have lifted me up from the darkness and given me strength to move forward. The people who surround me on a daily basis, don’t care that I’m not married, or that I don’t have children… but they love me just the same. They take care of me without me asking, and they lift me up in ways I never thought possible. I just wanted to share these thoughts because I think Love makes the world a better place, and it’s one of the greatest gifts we could ever experience as human beings in this world.
Feel free to share your thoughts about how Love has touched your life and what the different kinds of Love mean to you: whether that be Friendship, Family or Romantically 💗
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